Through my blue eyes
Saturday 30 December 2023
Happy New Year 2024
Welcoming 2023
Goodbye 2022, you’ve been relentless in the lessons you’ve sent me.
I have been well and truly tested.
My faith, my health, both mental and physical and my finances.
I’ve been tested by my family and friendships, by my trusting nature and my kind heart which are often taken advantage of.
2022 will be remembered as the year I chose what is best for me and even though the road was hard I stuck to it and I learned many lessons.
I am learning to say no.
I am learning to speak my truth.
I am learning to stand up for myself.
I am learning my value and who I am valued by.
I’m a work in progress and that’s ok.
I’ve lost a lot but I’ve also gained.
I failed, I cried, I laughed, I loved and I learned.
I learned money will never be a bartering price for my love as I value love over money.
I learned I did not break though I feared I would.
And I am reminded that I am still stronger than I know.
I hold blessings for everyone in my life, especially those who have been constant to me in their trust and love, their honesty, kindness, respect, support, guidance and un-ending friendship.
But also more importantly for those that have chosen to believe the very worst of me and the misrepresentation of facts presented to them without allowing me the dignity of explanation. For those who have disrespected me, ostracised me or tried to control me.
I’ve drawn a line under it now and I am at peace, because I know I have always been true, had the best of intentions and came from a good place with all of my heart.
My peace is mine and I guard it with my life.
So roll on 2023.
I’m walking into 2023 with a clear heart and mind and with forgiveness , most importantly forgiveness for myself.
This is a new chapter.
I wish all my friends and family healing, health, and hope for a 2023 filled with joy and happiness.
Tuesday 2 August 2022
Greece is always a good idea! 🧿
If you asked me why I love Kefalonia, this is how I would describe it to you.
Close your eyes and imagine……
Can you feel the sun on your face?
A whisper of wind in your hair?
What do you hear?
Take a deep breath and smell the air.
Let all of your senses awaken to the natural beauty, the simplicity, the peace.
Kefalonia - My Island love affair 💙🇬🇷🤍
The mountain, majestic with spines of Cypress littered amongst the Black Pine,
Proudly baring it’s fire scars which wind tracking their own path down the mountainside.
So dry, so barren, yet by juxtaposition also so verdant and green.
The heady smell of mountain Thyme, Greek Basil and Wild Oregano.
Endless ear popping roads, rough cut into the cliff edge, winding into hairpin bends and rockfalls.
The cloudy Milky Way in a sky speckled with a thousand stars in the pitch black of the National Park.
The relaxed, sleepy sound of Cicada’s chirping in the trees lulling me to close my eyes in slumber.
Pretty coloured beehives, flashes of colour dotted in the rocks.
Loggerhead turtles ‘Caretta Caretta’ lazily swimming in the lagoon.
Arrogant goats everywhere, scattering in the road as you round a bend.
Swallows swooping, dipping and diving with graceful ease above your head,
and butterflies dancing skilfully on the breeze.
Street side Tavernas jingling with the gentle sounds of Bouzouki music.
Virile men, young and old dancing with skill handed down, spin, turn and kick.
No more the plate smashing revelry of past times but instead, napkins thrown reign down,
floating in the air as the music reaches it’s climax.
Simple satisfying food, Souvlaki, fresh fish, salads, salty olives, feta, creamy, garlicky tzatziki and breads. Washed down with Mythos and crude wine served in metal jugs by the weight.
Sweet, nutty, honey soaked Baklava and Rovani served with ice cream.
Endless Olive groves full of ancient trees whispering to each other in the breeze with leaves turning from green to silver and back to green again.
Branches laden with natures bounty....Peach, Grape, Lemon, Lime, Orange, Pomegranate and fig.
The vibrant colour of hot pink Bougainvillea contrast against the endless blue of the sky.
Heavy boughed arches of Oleander, Mallow and Hibiscus.
Prickly Pear Cacti poking over garden walls and palm trees swaying in silhouette against the firmament.
Yellow and blue domes of tiny churches and little shrines, everywhere icons, candles and prayers.
The indescribable blue of the Ionian Sea and the warm wholesome smell of salt in the air.
Sail Boats, Yachts, Catamarans and the hubbub of bustling passenger Ferries,
Criss crossing the ocean in constant flux, in and out of harbours and marinas.
The crystal clear waters of natural underground lakes. Millpond still, ice cold and so blue,
Invoking childhood memories of colours from my paintbox....
Azure, Sapphire, Turquoise, Cyan, Cobalt.
Thursday 31 December 2020
New Year 2020-2021
Then, the news reports started coming out of China, news reports of Cruise Ships being stranded and people on board getting sick, people not allowed to come on to land. Even then we didn’t quite realise the impact this was going to have on us, as individuals, a country, the world, the economy..........it seemed so remote. Then panic rose and our world imploded.
It started with the kind of bizarre behaviour that only mankind can produce, loo roll stockpiling! The supermarkets went mad! Pasta, flour, yeast were non existent, shelves literally bare in every town across the country. Queuing outside supermarkets through the car park became our new normal as Boris announced Lockdown.
Our world shrunk around us and new vocabulary entered our consciousness.
Covid 19
Daily government briefings with Boris and Whitty.
Work from home, protect the NHS
Nightingale Hospital
Teaching moved on line, parents becoming main educators
Joe Wicks keeps the nation fit
Furlough and grants
Clapping for the NHS
Getting to know my neighbors
Distanced chatting in front gardens from gate to door
Rainbows in windows
Roads so quiet, barely any traffic
Anxiety rising, overwhelming fear
Daily meditation with Jay Shetty
Salsa styling classes on line in my kitchen
Loungewear
Weight gain
Walking to keep fit and discovering new places
On line quizzes and games
Lockdown beards
Home haircuts ( and in my case making the move to stop dying my hair )
Zoom therapy sessions for Luke and a support group for me
Lockdown viewing wish list
Masks
Hand gel
Temperature checks
Covid tests (x3) and relief when negative result
Isolating
Protecting vulnerable family
No hugging
Elbow bumps and toe taps
One way systems
Restaurants, theatres, pubs, hairdressers closed, essential shopping only
Holidays canceled
Theatre trips canceled
Eat out to help out
Working through lockdown
Being a keyworker
Bubbles
Tier system rollercoaster
Being kind and the kindness of strangers
Good friends
Brexit back in the news again, deal finally agreed
New variant spreading fast
Vaccine hope
Countries shutting their boarders
Lorries stacked up in Dover
Christmas is not cancelled but Christmas is different this year
Quiet New Year celebrations at home.
Quite a sobering list huh! But there have been many highlights and good times amongst all that.
Amongst the positives are that I got to spend time with the 3 most important people in my life. I got to see more of my daughter Beth as she would normally be working, we were able to go on some lovely walks together, I’m so glad she was staying at my Mums when all this kicked off, it would have been awful had she been living on her own further away and she’s been a great support to my Mum and Eddie too.
I got to spend more quality time with Luke too as we shared time cooking together which was lovely.
But also to spend more time with Ian and we’ve had to do things differently this year, visited places together we would never have found if it weren’t for the restrictions we’ve been living under, lavender farms, sunflower fields, Downton Abbey with Uncle Andy and Aunty Val, drive in movies, walks in the woods etc. We have grown even closer together and have taken it in turns to give and receive support when needed, which we have always done, but I think this year we have reached an even deeper understanding of what we need individually and as a couple. For instance Ian quickly worked out that when I was feeling trapped inside and life spiralling out of our control and my anxiety was sky high that he needed to get me out, quite literally! “ come on, we’re going for a walk, where shall we go?” became a regular thing back in the Spring/ Summer. This year has cemented our relationship into even deeper footings, we’ve been through a lot this year and have done a lot of soul searching. In adverse times you find out a lot about yourself and what you need individually and as a couple and you find about a lot about other people. Much like when I was diagnosed with Breast Cancer.
Sadly In my quest to carve out my future with Ian and have financial independence I’ve managed to upset and hurt my sister (and my mum) which was not something I ever set out to do. Things are broken down with my sister at the moment but I’ll keep throwing out olive branches. I hope that next year I can reach an understanding with her but It’s been an unbelievably painful, hurtful and upsetting time.
Ian proposed to me in October in a beautiful way at the V&A and we have planned a very small wedding in February which at the moment have no idea if it will be able to go ahead. We’re ok with it though, It will happen at some point and in some form next year but it’s not in our control. We are delighted and excited nevertheless and very much looking forward to becoming Mr & Mrs Foreman.
I’ve reached my 10yr cancerversary mark as the year draws to a close which is a good feeling. My anxiety around my cancer returning is quietening every year now which is a relief. It’s taken such a long time.
My life has been made richer by my close friendship groups this year, I have friends that always have my back, make me laugh, share my joy and pain ( and wine) and am looking forward to some good times to come, including hopefully a wedding reception!! I need to throw my bouquet!!
So, this year has been far from ideal but I take courage from the good moments, my glass is still half full. I’m thankful that we have made it through the last 9 months with all our friends and family still safe and well and hope that as we look forward on the brink of a new year that this remains so. We are not out of the woods yet with Covid but I hope that we can begin to see a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel. Until then I’ll strike a match and light the way myself!
All that remains is to thank you for being metaphorically by my side this year, for all your love and kindness and good wishes. I hope that you’ve been able to look back and find some positives from 2020. Keep looking up, for rainbows and stars and find all the good moments to focus on.
Happy new year. I’ll look forward to sharing many happy times with you in 2021.
Love Emma xxxx
Sunday 6 September 2020
Love
Love
What is love?
Love is far more than saying I love you,
And sometimes, it’s not hearing it, but knowing it’s there.
Love is thinking before you speak and remembering to be kind even when you’ve had a tough day and are in a bad mood, and forgiving and understanding the other when we don’t quite pull this off.
Love is not all the pretty stuff we post on Social media, but farting in bed, smelly morning breath, snoring, staying up late getting drunk and singing along to Mamma Mia at the top of our voices.
Sunday mornings lazing in bed with coffee and somewhat eclectic breakfasts
Gentle teasing about F1 drivers, Apple verses Android, Radio 2 or Kiss FM, setting 5 alarms and snoozing the last 10 times verses jumping straight out of bed for work.
Love is appreciating our similarities, acknowledging our differences, our anxieties, and our quirks without judgement.
Love is understanding that we love our families even when we find ours or each other’s difficult.
Love is trust, trust that we will be honest with each other, but always kind. No secrets, no lies.
Love is building each other up but not putting on a pedestal.
Encouraging each other to be the best that we can be, and sometimes, in the nicest way, it’s calling each other out on our crap.
Love is understanding that life isn’t all plain sailing and when storms make the waters choppy, as they will, we will have broad shoulders and strong arms to support when needed and to know that the other will be there to support us in turn.
Love is singing in the car and taking turns to be the designated driver.
It’s prioritising each other and, when needed, ourselves, because you can’t pour from an empty cup.
It’s more than just sharing the chores, but sharing our ideas, money and resources to build something together with solid foundations.
It’s Midnight conversations asking what’s for dinner tomorrow and laughing till we cry at the silliest things.
It’s promising to look after each other when it’s easy and when it’s not. When we are ill and as we get old together.
It’s planning adventures and having a best friend to share it all and to make memories with.
Sometimes it’s both of us talking excitedly at the same time, and finishing each other’s sentences,
but it is also enjoying the silences together, the small moments, watching tv, washing up, cuddles before sleep, holding hands ........
Life is a succession of small moments to be celebrated, because all those small moments add up to big things. They make us us, and they add up to love.
Monday 30 March 2020
Love in the time of Covid 19
Monday 12 August 2019
RIP
- In 2017 there were 6,213 suicides in the UK and Republic of Ireland.
- Of these, 5,821 suicides were registered in the UK
- and 392 occurred in the Republic of Ireland.
- In the UK, men are three times as likely to take their own lives than women.
- In the UK, the highest suicide rate was for men aged 45-49
behave and the roles, attributes and behaviours that society expects of them – contributes to suicide in men..
In a split second, their lives changed.
and friends to come to terms with this and for them to pick up the pieces of their broken lives and rebuild some semblance of normality now after the funeral. I suspect they are working through many emotions and there is so little anyone can really do to make it any easier.
that know that it is okay to not always be okay and to seek support when it’s not.